In the urologist's office it is not customary to dissemble. However, like a gynecologist. Therefore, now it is no longer a secret for anyone that almost 95% of the adult population of the planet had or has experience of self-satisfaction. Do not be confused by this figure. Most likely, it is even higher ...
If we open the Concise Medical Encyclopedia, published in the USSR in the 70s of the last century, we will be surprised to learn that masturbation is one of the forms of sexual perversion. It is unlikely that this position was adhered to by Soviet doctors, rather, this was the direction of public opinion of the most "moral" power in the world. The younger generation was threatened with all heavenly punishments: from impotence and infertility to genital curvature and even schizophrenia. However, it would be foolish to blame the communist system for everything.
The Swiss doctor S. Tissot (1728-1797) was the first in the history of medicine to consider masturbation as a medical problem. It was he who turned masturbation, for reasons only known to him, from a simple sin into a disease requiring treatment. According to Tissot, any sexual activity was dangerous, because it caused "a rush of blood to the head, reducing the blood supply to other organs, as a result of which nerves and other vital tissues gradually degenerate, which sooner or later leads to insanity."
Original title masturbation- masturbation. This term has been known since biblical times. True, modern scientists regard the story of Onan as a description of a completely different action - interrupted sexual intercourse. In Genesis (38), Judas tells his son Onan to marry his brother's wife and have intercourse with her. Onan resists. “And Judas said to Onan: Go to your brother’s wife, marry her as a brother-in-law, and restore your brother’s seed. Onan knew that the seed would not be for him, and therefore, when he went in to his brother's wife, he poured it out on the ground so as not to give the seed to his brother. Evil was before the eyes of the Lord what he was doing; and he killed him too. "
As you can see, there is no question of masturbation. However, the name "masturbation" has been around since then.
But today masturbation it is considered to be an absolutely normal form of female and male sexuality. Moreover, urologists-sexologists and gynecologists report on the positive effect of self-satisfaction not only on the human psyche, but also on his sexuality and the entire body as a whole, highlighting the obvious advantages of masturbation:
« Masturbation- the best, perhaps, prophylactic agent for prostatitis, but do not forget that during masturbation the prostate is drained much worse than during intercourse "
"For woman masturbation- an excellent way of emotional discharge during PMS and, like any sexual "training", it provides increased blood circulation, creates additional tone for muscles and skin "
"In both sexes, masturbation improves sleep and memory, normalizes the activity of the cardiovascular system and helps to cope with stress and depression."
"Self-satisfaction, as one of the options for sex, increases the number of antibodies in the human body by 30-40%, which helps to strengthen the immune system and protects against infectious diseases."
However, one should not forget that the most NORMAL form of sexual activity is, after all, sex with a partner. And we cannot keep silent about the fact that for people who are shy, prone to withdrawal, unsure of themselves, masturbation can do a disservice, accustoming them to the idea of the possibility of replacing a full-fledged personal life with its physiological surrogate. And also, according to some reports, masturbation can lead to varicocele (varicose veins of the spermatic cord), due to the disruption of the natural "pump" that is created during full sexual intercourse and is extremely necessary for both men and women.
In addition, sexologists pay attention to the fact that self-satisfaction is considered normal, which causes only physical pleasure in a person, but not moral or psychological. The desire to masturbate in front of other people, or to spy on strangers during this intimate activity can be regarded as hooliganism and indicate some mental abnormalities that doctors already consider as pathology.
Urologists point out that, contrary to popular belief, there are differences between male and female masturbation. To begin with, self-satisfaction is "more useful" for men, and sometimes just necessary (if there is a risk of prostatitis). The stronger sex probably feels this subconsciously, so they resort to masturbation (even with a constant partner) 40% more often than a woman who has a partner. In addition, women, as more refined natures, try to find a certain aesthetics in the process of self-satisfaction. They need a certain entourage, mood, atmosphere. Men are more straightforward and perceive masturbation as a natural physiological process. On the other hand, women at times more often than men resort to experiments, they like to visit intimate stores. That is why, probably, women's "games" with themselves so often become the object of attention of directors of erotic films, and men's - almost never.
As a summary of this small material, I would like to report the following:
If the "sin" of self-gratification is inherent in you, then self-gratification is good for your health, but do not abuse it. There are no medical contraindications if you masturbate no more than once a week. Carefully monitor your well-being and try to really have fun, and not compensate for your complexes. The frequency, duration, and activity of your intimate hobby is entirely up to you.
Sexual intercourse is physical activity and, from this point of view, has a lot in common with football, swimming and other sports.
In order to learn how to swim well and without getting tired for a long time, you must train to withstand prolonged loads, perform a certain set of exercises - to improve breathing, the work of motor muscles and technique.
If you've ever seen soccer practice, you were undoubtedly overwhelmed by the warm-up and the ensuing dizzying drills that a footballer must do before getting close to the ball. Until his body becomes strong and flexible, his reaction is instant - he will not be allowed to play, even training, let alone competition.
The same applies to you.
To awaken the body to make it do its job well, you must train as an athlete.
Your gym will be a private room or bedroom. Your exercises are eight in the previous chapter and the most important 9th exercise in this one (with all kinds of variations).
Exercise - that is, masturbation - is considered very immoral. But she does not bring any harm or harm, so do not listen to nonsense.
Masturbation is an awkward, ugly and completely inappropriate word used to describe one of the most enjoyable experiences in human life. She is healthy, normal, pleasant, while the word has an unhealthy, abnormal and unpleasant connotation. Women who sometimes, in a fit of remorse, are ready to confess to treason, will, however, in every possible way deny any personal experience in the field of masturbation and insist that only a few unhappy and perverted can go to such an extreme. Almost every woman masturbates at some point in her life.
Smart women do this quite a lot, because they understand that masturbation opens the doors to sensuality for them, strengthening the muscles of love, increasing their elasticity and helping the body develop feelings of coordination, reaching orgasm (many orgasms) with ease.
After thinking about what masturbation can give you, isn't it worth it to overcome your aversion to that word and to the act itself.
The experience of masturbation will teach you which parts of your body are most prone to arousal, which manipulations in the clitoral zone lead to the fastest and sharpest reaction, what is your wave orgasm (you should stop for a minute or continue until the next orgasm). You will find out how many orgasms you can have in one sitting without getting tired. Some women are satisfied with 3-4, and some go up to a hundred, before falling into complete prostration.
If you say that I removed all romance from sex, describing it as something purely mechanical and animal, then you would be completely wrong. If you can train your body to reach orgasm in 3 minutes, think about what will happen when he caresses you. How good it is to become sovereign and energetic right away, instead of wasting precious time trying to react to his caresses, and not getting aroused to the end. After a few months of training, you should be able to have several orgasms in the time it took you to get to the first signs of arousal.
The fact is that it is you who must learn to be sensitive to arousal, since men usually do not pay enough attention to caressing your body when they themselves are sexually aroused. They want to take action right away, without any cat-and-mouse games. I think it is worth spending days, weeks and months on sensitivity training because it is always a rewarding investment. And then, even if he does not pay enough attention to caresses, you, at least, will not feel offended or hurt. So are you ready? Choose a time of day when you are confident in absolute and lasting privacy.
Take off your clothes completely, turn off your phone, use dim lighting or turn off the lights altogether if that's more pleasant for you, and stretch out in bed.
Close your eyes, and first mentally, and then literally slowly, run your hands over your body.
Now, gently lubricate the clitoral and vaginal areas with petroleum jelly or regular hand and face cream (however, I try to avoid hormonal creams). Do not hurry. Examine the area with your fingers to see if the clitoris is very sensitive to touch. Do you feel warmth and shiver while massaging its base? Which side is more sensitive - the left? Do you have a pleasant sensation in the pubic area? When you lubricate your big lips, they swell a little, right?
There are no two women masturbating in the same way. In the following sections, I will describe several different ways to masturbate. Try each of them several times and choose the one that suits your taste. After that, continue to improve it, striving for maximum pleasure.
Mechanical stimulation
If you have never reached orgasm, or have experienced difficulties in this, undoubtedly, the vibrator will work a miracle. There are many different models of vibrators. I believe the most successful is the battery operated vibrator (no danger of short circuits); shaped like a male member. Such a vibrator is not expensive and is sold in stores. It is an effective stimulant that can be inserted into the vagina. Due to the fact that it is advertised as a facial massage, you can purchase it without any hesitation. The seller is unlikely to ask what exactly you are going to use it for. Another popular type of vibrator is the Scandinavian vibrator - which is worn on your hand and transmits sensations through your fingertips, rather than through rubber tips. This model is quite expensive, however it is well constructed and efficient.
There is a vibrator with three or four attachments, each of which gives a different vibrator that suits you in shape and in your pocket.
Now let's move on to using the vibrator. As before, you lie in silence with your eyes closed, tuning in to a sensual pose, a wave of your body. Try to switch your thoughts to someone who is sexually arousing. He can be anyone - a movie star, a handsome man in a store line, your friend, a neighbor. Imagine that he sees you naked in bed. Your body is open, hungry for it. Imagine that he caresses your chest, stomach, strokes your thighs, and massages your clitoris. The vibrator will replace his hands and cock. Do not hurry. Before you is a whole night full of sensations. Don't hold yourself back. Give yourself long, rhythmic stimulation as the vibrator moves up and down in the area of your clitoris and vagina. Let the man of your fantasy take the proper position in your feelings and thoughts. You feel it deep inside you, your pelvis curves towards it, you desire it, you long to explode in an all-consuming orgasm! He caresses you, torments you, preparing you for the next explosion! If one fantasy doesn't work, switch to another. The infinity of sensuality is before you, savor it.
If you are having difficulties in a suitable candidate, open the erotic chapter of a book, looking through it, at the same time use a vibrator. There is a huge amount of such literature. Try to choose tastefully. Let your fantasy turn you on. Some women see themselves kidnapped, raped, attacked by a tiger, committing an act with several men at once. You can go on a rampage in your imagination as much as you want, because no one will ever know anything until you tell it yourself.
Some women hesitate to masturbate until their 20s or even 30s. If you are a beginner in the field of masturbation and orgasms, do not embarrass yourself the first time. It may take you a few weeks of practice to train yourself to react more freely. Only training can enhance this response. Remember how you almost fell when you tried to ride your bike after a long break?
The most important thing for a beginner is patience and faith in success. Research has shown that 95% of women using stimulation achieve orgasm. After using a vibrator for several weeks, you will almost certainly be able to reach orgasm in one minute and immediately move on to the next exercises.
Manual stimulation
Having fully mastered the vibrator, you must take the "case" into your own hands. Now that you have felt what an orgasm is, you must learn to achieve it with less deep stimulation. The vibrator has spoiled you, and, perhaps, your own finger will excite you less, but you should try to achieve a higher level of sensitivity. With manual stimulation, you will experience emotional shades that are completely impossible with a vibrator.
Every woman develops her own style of masturbation, however, according to research conducted in this area, there is always something in common between us. Women rarely use stimulation of the head of the clitoris itself, since in this case the sensation is often too strong, sometimes even causing pain and irritation of the clitoris. Usually they concentrate on the right side of the clitoris or stimulate the entire pubic area in a circular motion, with a change in pressure depending on taste. Usually, with pubic stimulation, orgasm comes later and the sensation is less acute than with clitoral stimulation. All this depends on personal choice, and only you yourself, having tried several methods, can choose the best one. Continuing to manually stimulate, you will notice that the orgasm begins to come faster, and, having studied all the sensory zones, you can quite easily achieve several orgasms without interruption.
Book a few hours of free time per week for masturbation to reinforce a particular pattern of your sexual response. Remember that you are training your body, making it a first-class weapon for love. You will never achieve this with irregular activities. You can't learn how to play the piano by practicing just a few times a year! If you only masturbate once or twice a month, you have nothing to expect from your body. Masturbate to the limit of the number of orgasms, trying to increase it each time. For a minimum, you should take 3-4 orgasms, but try to reach 10-25. You cannot hurt yourself. When your body has enough, it will let you know. You will educate your body so that you can have several orgasms in a row on the Olympus of pleasures. If you yourself do not know what exactly excites you the most, then how can he know about it? Every woman has her weaknesses, and a man is far from being a clairvoyant, is he?
There are endless ways to masturbate. You are only limited by your own imagination and inclinations. Below are some of the popular methods.
Water stimulation
Jacuzzi bathtub is something heavenly. You lie on your back in the bathtub, direct the stream of water to the clitoris and get endless pleasure. I've heard that a similar effect is achieved with new bidets. Lean back in the seat and adjust the jet so that it is directed towards the clitoris. Are you ready to continue? Remove the mesh from the shower and direct the jet to the genitals, adjust the jet and its temperature so that it is pleasant, and then lie on your back in such a position that the jet of water acts on the clitoris. As I was told, you can enjoy using a hand-held watering can or garden irrigation devices.
Other ways to stimulate
Many girls insert objects into their vagina to stimulate penile sensation. The most common of these are candles, bananas, tapers, and of course large rubber limbs. But for heaven's sake, be sensible! Do not use bottles, light bulbs, or brittle pieces of wood. After all, you do not smile to seek help from a doctor later in order to get this garbage out of you.
I heard, but I really didn't try it myself, that you can get to ecstasy by riding a horse.
There is also a so-called. Chinese tickling. You insert three metal balls into your vagina and then apply the vibrator from the outside. The vibrator throws up the balls, and they say: There is something ...
The most unusual masturbation method I know of is the "washing machine" method. You load laundry into the machine, start it, and when it starts to work, you press the appropriate place against it and get a little shake, like pain.
Soon, probably someone will figure out how to get an orgasm from a computer. There are a huge number of methods. Maybe someday you will write to me about one of them.
I am deeply convinced of the immense importance of masturbation for our body to become sexually responsive. She helped both me and many other women. If you really focus and devote enough time to this, I am sure that the doors of sexuality will open before you.
By the way, masturbation can also be an effective regulator. If you are sexually tense and don't find a partner suitable for bed battles, you can avoid remorse for a bad choice by releasing the tension without complications.
Masturbation has another advantage that surprised me a lot. Sexologists Masters, Johnson found in a study of 43 women who used self-stimulation that a strong orgasm soon after the onset of menstruation increases the flow rate, reduces cramps in the pelvic region.
Well, can you now doubt that masturbation is good for you?
Until relatively recently, female sexology and sexopathology were poorly studied, therefore, scientists did not have data on both the frequency and whether female masturbation occurs. Much has now been studied.
In particular, the American sex therapist Kinsey showed that 12-year-old girls have masturbation in 12% of cases, and by the age of 35 it already reaches 60%. A. Svyadosch received approximately the same figures.
He concluded that while the majority of men masturbate primarily between the ages of 14-18 and almost completely stop by the age of 25, most women who start masturbating continue to masturbate until the age of 55-60.
The impetus for masturbation for most of the girls was "their own findings (discoveries)", when, as a result of some random manipulations (often unconscious), they noted the emergence of a new, specific pleasant sensation.
The reason for the onset of masturbation in women is often dissatisfaction with the existing sexual relationship with her husband. To a certain extent, if not directly by impetus, then the moments that excite masturbation can be considered more and more last years"freedom" in women discussing among themselves their own sexual experiences, reading literature on female sexology, and indeed emancipation not only in social and business issues, but also in sexual intercourse.
If not so long ago the absence of orgasmic experiences during intimacy was perceived by most women as inevitable, today this does not suit them.
And if orgasm is not achieved during intercourse, they experience it later as a result of masturbation (although it is not uncommon for some women to help themselves achieve orgasm during intercourse with their husbands by self-irritating the clitoris).
About 80% of women engaged in masturbation irritate the clitoris or labia minora, the rest imitate the movement of the male penis into the vagina with the help of one or another device.
As with men, masturbation in women can be sporadic or compulsive. The latter form in a certain way affects the personality of a woman, her sexual behavior and sometimes can make it difficult to contact a man.
At the same time, in contrast to male masturbation, in which an orgasm occurs, which in strength and quality does not differ from orgasm during intercourse, because of the psychophysiological characteristics, orgasm in women during masturbation is never equal to natural.
Women in their absolute majority want not just intimacy "in general", but intimacy with a loved one, with a man who, in terms of his personal qualities, meets their strictest criteria. It is clear that during masturbation this personality component is absent.
And therefore one cannot but agree with the words of A. M. Svyadosch: "Whatever sensations masturbation may cause, it cannot replace normal sex life. True sexual satisfaction is achievable only with sexual intercourse with a loved one."
Not encouraging masturbation from a moral and ethical standpoint, we, nevertheless, are obliged to objectively assess the harm or benefit of it, to tell what consequences self-gratification can lead to.
First of all, let us note that until recently, female masturbation was subjected to the same persecution by the church and society as male masturbation. At the end of the last century, in the treatise On Masturbation, the following was written about women: “The fullness of the face and its healthy color disappear, the skin becomes wrinkled and tough; the fire of the eyes goes out, blue rings form around the eyelids, the lips turn pale, the teeth become covered with dark mucus .. . "
In addition, women who are fond of masturbation expect "ailments of the uterus and its prolapse, abscesses on the uterus, induration and cancer of the uterus and ... rabies of the uterus."
Is it necessary to prove the falseness of all these statements? Let us refer once again to the opinion of A. Svyadosch, who writes: "The fear of some women that masturbation can lead to pain in the sacrum, nausea, vomiting, and dysfunction is deprived of any scientific basis. internal organs, memory impairment ... etc.
The act of masturbation causes the same local changes in a woman's genitals, as does normal intercourse. There is no doubt that masturbation is harmless for a woman from a physiological point of view. "
Although it is rare (we mentioned that female orgasm is a more complex phenomenon than male), women who are able to experience orgasm during masturbation, but do not achieve the necessary relaxation during closeness with their husband, turn to consultations.
Among doctors who have had to deal with such complaints, there is an opinion that the main reasons; this lies in the inept or incorrect stimulation of the most important erogenous zones women on the part of the husband or in insufficient psychoerotic training of the spouses.
When and how do girls start masturbating?
With the end of puberty and early sexual activity, many young girls masturbate. However, as we said earlier, and at an older age, for various reasons, the overwhelming majority of women resort to this method of relaxation. This, of course, does not bring any harm.
Many modern sex therapists and sexologists even advise women to study their bodies and genitals. These tips are aimed at ensuring that in the future a woman can make it clear to a man which caresses cause her the greatest excitement - The simplest way that young girls and women resort to is finger masturbation.
Thus, many girls learn that stroking the upper vaginal wall stimulates the clitoris and enhances orgasm. Intentionally inserting other objects into the vagina is not common, but it does happen. For this, candles, cucumbers, carrots, thimbles and other household items are used.
Unlike men, lubrication problems do not arise, since the required amount of natural ointment is always available. Women who seriously engage in such masturbation are often not satisfied with the indicated means and purchase a dildo.
What is a dildo?
A dildo is an artificial penis. The oldest known dildos were found in ancient Egyptian tombs, they were made of clay. Since the Egyptian nobility was buried only with the most valuable things (which should have come in handy in better world), then, obviously, the dildo had a very great importance for Egyptian women.
For material reasons, only a few dildos were made of gold or silver. In the Middle Ages, sealing wax was widespread. He quickly absorbed the warmth of the body and softened slightly, creating a "natural feeling".
Primitive tribes used clay, unglazed for the common people and glazed for the leaders' spouses. Clay with active use could break, resulting in painful cleaning.
Vibrators, dildos and ben wa balls.
After the discovery of rubber vulcanization, the French, who were always inventive in matters of sex, came up with an object that they wittily called the "consolidator" (comforter).
Made in the shape of a long, hard, but resilient penis, this object is equipped with a reservoir in the form of a scrotum. The reservoir is filled with hot water (some women prefer milk), which circulates throughout the apparatus, creating the effect of bodily warmth. At the right time, the model can put a trickle of warm liquid into the vagina.
Nor should American technology be underestimated. Like many other household items, the American dildo is made of plastic.
The Japanese started working on dildos about a thousand years ago and have had good results. In their market, carved ivory is traditionally prized, but due to its high cost, artificial ivory and hard white plastic are acceptable. While the West strives for realism, for the East the main thing is feeling.
In Japan, there are a wide variety of models - from sleek small-bore options (for virgins who first resort to this form of satisfaction) to larger in size and rich in texture. The more threads that stimulate the mature vagina, the more perfect the model. The most interesting Japanese invention in this area is the ben-wa.
What is ben-wa?
The Japanese have automated masturbation. Centuries ago, clever Japanese women, perhaps driven by despair, developed a scanning technique that remains unsurpassed to this day.
When a Japanese woman wants to relieve her sexual tension, she takes a plush bag and takes out two shiny metal balls. Their size depends on the desired effect, but in a typical set of ben-wa, each ball is the size of an apricot.
Expensive sets are made from silver and even gold, but polished steel is usually used, and nowadays, plastic. One ball is hollow, the other is partially filled with mercury.
First, a hollow ball is inserted deep into the vagina, followed by one filled with mercury. Then the woman lies down or (even better) sways in the chair. As she slowly wiggles her hips, the mercury in the second ball rolls back and forth, constantly pushing the first ball towards the cervix.
Vibrations are transmitted to the entire vagina, clitoris, lips, and inside the uterus itself. Sometimes Japanese women repeat these slow movements for hours, moving from one orgasm to another.
But what about Western women?
Western women have their own technique. She may be a little rougher, but just as resourceful. Western sex therapist D. Reyben gives an example. At the beginning of the Industrial Revolution in the United States, many girls worked in garment factories. The work was long, the wages were low, and the working conditions were depressing.
The girls worked on pedal-type sewing machines that required constant pressure on the pedal with one or both feet. Gradually, they found that by squeezing the thighs while pressing the pedal, it was possible to rub the small lips and massage the clitoris. So tedious work became almost a joy.
With the new amusement, long hours at sewing machines began to pass unnoticed. Fortunately (or unfortunately), electric machines were soon introduced, and the pleasure withdrew from the garment industry. But the introduction of electricity was not a bad thing at all. It opened up new perspectives for masturbation.
An electric vibrator entered the stage. This small handheld device was first used by physical education enthusiasts many years ago. Its original goal was to mechanize massage.
In essence, a vibrator is an electric motor attached to the arm with an elastic strap. When the motor is running, it causes a strong vibration in the hand, which is transmitted to the muscle and everything else that the hand touches.
If the hand is holding the erect penis - the motor, the hand and penis vibrate together. The sensations are different from those inherent in intercourse, but according to enthusiasts, arousal is much more than with simple old masturbation.
It is also said that more frequent orgasms are possible thanks to this method. The big advantage, of course, is that a vibrator applied to a tired penis will quickly produce a good erection. In this case, it's not about the muscles, but about the rapidly repeated stimulation of the nerve endings.
The same thing happens with women. If the vibrator is tied to the hand, the thumb and index fingers of which gently hold the clitoris, then everything happens quickly, one orgasm follows another.
Some women claim to have never masturbated. It's true?
In some ways. If they mean they never intentionally masturbated, then they are most likely telling the truth. But there are many other ways to do the same.
One of the most common forms of hidden masturbation is washing the vagina with a shower. For many women, this is just a form of personal hygiene, especially after intercourse. But for others, this soul is filled with a different meaning. With a daily (and sometimes twice a day) washing the vagina with a shower, sexual stimulation is inevitable.
What's bad about it?
Nothing. This is a common response to a natural physiological and emotional need.
Are there situations where masturbation is preferable to sexual intercourse?
There are several of them. The first is when a person is not emotionally ready for sexual activity. A 13-year-old boy and an 11-year-old girl are physiologically capable of intercourse, but they will create more problems than they solve. Masturbation is preferred.
Another situation is when it is difficult for a woman to achieve orgasm. Sometimes this form of sexual training will help her deal with an obstacle.
Is masturbation a cure for frigidity?
Not necessary. But sometimes it can be beneficial. The neural connection between the head and spinal cord and the genitals from the practice works better. The same thing happens with the sexual apparatus. It is known that many women develop their sexual abilities through frequent intercourse.
For the treatment of frigidity, a woman reaches orgasm with a vibrat. She does this at least once a day, reaching five to twenty orgasms per session. This activity, in addition to training the sexual apparatus, develops in her a taste for sexual satisfaction, which will later induce her to have regular intercourse.
He and she
According to statistics, not all, but 95% of the fair sex are engaged in masturbation. At the same time, gynecologists and sexologists argue that this is not only pleasant, but also very useful activity. Is it useful for a woman to masturbate, and how to do it correctly in order to bring pleasure and benefit to her body?
Adaptive and maladaptive masturbation
Before delving into such an intimate topic and dealing with the main issue, it is necessary to explain two concepts. What is adaptive and maladaptive masturbation?
Adaptive is the type of masturbation that is beneficial to a woman's health. It is this type that contributes to the development of a woman sexually, making it possible to get an orgasm during sex with a man. Adaptive can be explained by the word adaptive, in which its usefulness is expressed.
Maladaptive is just a way to have fun, but it does not in any way develop a woman's ability and ability to experience an orgasm during sexual intercourse with a sexual partner. An example of this type of masturbation can be attributed to getting an orgasm using a jet from a tap, a ball and other objects, by crossing the legs, and so on.
In general, there is a kind of stereotype that a woman should have an orgasm only during intercourse. In theory, even Sigmund Freud adheres to a similar concept, arguing that vaginal orgasm is more mature than clitoral.
In fact, not everyone succeeds in getting an orgasm during intercourse itself, that is, during stimulation with the penis. But with your fingers it is much easier to bring a girl to orgasm, so it will not be difficult in this way. Therefore, try to do everything with your hands first, believe me, this is no worse than manhood.
If you are in the mood for more, then you need training, in which adaptive masturbation will help. That is, a woman must learn to experience the peak of bliss with the help of an ordinary dildo.
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Types of orgasm
Having drawn conclusions about the types of masturbation, it is worth paying attention to the types of orgasm. There are also several of them.
Interestingly, in women, the main source of orgasm is not the vagina, but the clitoris. And this organ, unfortunately, is not in the vagina, where it should be, but next to it. Therefore, during intercourse, he does not take any part.
Interesting fact:
According to statistics, about 60% of girls are able to get a clitoral orgasm, and only about 20% can get a vaginal orgasm.
That is why during intercourse it is necessary to influence the clitoris with the hands of the sexual partner or do it yourself.
If learning a clitoral orgasm is most often not difficult, and for this there is no need to purchase special devices and devices, then you will have to try with vaginal ones. Adaptive masturbation in this case is a great option that will not only help you have fun, but also learn a lot.
Benefit and harm
Even this activity has its pros and cons. Let's take a closer look at the picture from two sides.
TO useful properties female masturbation can be attributed to:
- an increase in mood upon reaching orgasm, which occurs due to the production of a hormone - serotonin, it is also a hormone of happiness;
- a positive effect on the relationship with a partner, since after such classes a woman can tell her lover which points can quickly and effectively lead to the desired ending;
- it has been proven that masturbation is the most accessible and simple method for reducing physical and mental stress;
- during masturbation, as during sex, especially when reaching orgasm, there is an analgesic effect.
The latter fact has also already been confirmed by scientific research. Therefore, the excuse that the head hurts is clearly not relevant in this case.
As for the harm, here you can also highlight several nuances:
- if basic hygiene rules are not followed, masturbation can cause harm, for example, if various sex toys are insufficiently cleaned, bacteria grow and multiply on their surface;
- According to some sexologists, with regular masturbation practice, there may be slight difficulties in achieving orgasm during sex with a partner.
If everything is clear with the first point, as a conclusion - you just need to carefully monitor the hygiene of your body and the used sexual devices, then the second point can be misleading. Some women think that with frequent sexual intercourse, there is an even greater desire.
However, this is often not the case. Masturbation can lead to the fact that it will be difficult for a woman to get an orgasm from the actions of a partner, since she herself knows her erogenous places better, knows the speed necessary to reach the final, and so on.
How to masturbate correctly?
Before starting the process itself, tune in. Fantasy plays a huge role here. Depending on what is going on in your head, the final result will also differ. If your head is full of other problems, then it is better to postpone this matter until next time. In this case, it is unlikely that something will work out.
In men without sexual fantasies, an erection does not occur at all. So think of something that will make you aroused, give goosebumps to your skin to speed up the process.
Most often, women, in order to get pleasure, prefer clitoral masturbation without penetration. This is usually done using either hands or a stream of water in the shower. Of course, you can also use a sex toy - satisfer, which will bring you to orgasm using vacuum waves in a matter of seconds.
A few tips on how to masturbate properly:
- retire in a calm atmosphere, turn on calm music, make it twilight, you can even get naked to get a taste;
- close your eyes and activate your fantasies, you can view various photos or videos, while stroking different parts of the body;
- while stimulating the clitoris, try different tempos and movements, choosing the option that suits you best;
- in anticipation of the finale, take your time, give yourself a little time to enjoy these sensations.
With a little practice, you will find the best pace and movement for an incredible orgasm.
Poses and methods
There are several positions that can be comfortable while masturbating.
Among them are:
- on all fours, if necessary, you can put pillows under the abdomen, while caress can be carried out both with the help of the hands and with the help of a vibrator;
- for a sitting position, a sofa or a chair with a back is most suitable, but without armrests, while the legs must be spread as wide as possible, if desired, hooked onto the legs of the chair or lifting them up;
- in a standing position, which girls often choose in the shower, you can put one foot on the edge of the bathtub or sink;
- a good kneeling position, with the legs wide apart, and the torso directed to one side.
If many years ago there was an opinion that masturbation, especially female masturbation, is a perversion that can lead to many consequences, today scientists have completely refuted this theory.
First of all, do not forget that you may not be able to get an orgasm right away. Therefore, to begin with, consider masturbation not as a method of satisfaction, but as a workout.
Just make it feel good and enjoy it. Do not set yourself a goal to finish as quickly as possible, but just get a thrill from the process itself.
The second thing to look out for is the setting. If your imagination is not enough for you, then just use the Internet. Erotic films greatly raise desire, and arousal appears simply automatically.
You can use your fingers to get started. This will allow you to feel exactly where those cherished points are. After that, you can proceed to influence with a vibrator. Some argue that it is not so easy to find the G-point on your own, which is explained by its location, that is, it is simply inconvenient. However, many can refute this theory.
Then you can begin to influence this area with a vibrator. This will help you learn to vaginal orgasm. As a result of such training, it is not a fact that it will be possible to learn how to get a vaginal orgasm during stimulation with the penis. But with your fingers, your partner will definitely be able to give you pleasure. In addition, manual sex, which is performed with the help of a partner's fingers, is also quite popular and effective.
Perhaps these are all the basic rules and recommendations. The answer to the main question has been found: masturbation does not do any harm, but, on the contrary, is very beneficial for the female body, as well as for sexual intercourse with a partner. Do everything right and enjoy the process and, of course, the result!
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Excessive masturbation... If sexual activity is the only paired function of a person, that is, for its implementation, the presence of two partners is required (in the normal version, persons of different sex), then masturbation is the achievement of orgasm by artificial means on their own, without sexual contact with another person.
Along with the term "masturbation" is also used "masturbation", "masturbation", "ipsation", etc. The most widespread term is "masturbation", which we will use.
According to the report of A. Wettley (1959) "Psychopathia sexualis", the term onania was introduced into medicine not so long ago. It was first used in London in 1710 in an article by an anonymous author against masturbation. In 1796 the article was translated into German in Leipzig and the term onania was officially recognized.
The term " masturbation"Is essentially incorrect. It comes from the name of the biblical youth Onan, who, according to the Jewish law of levirate marriage, was supposed to have sex with the widow of his older brother Tamara. He did not want her to become pregnant, and before orgasm he stopped intercourse, pouring the seed on the ground. Thus, he was not engaged in masturbation, but in interrupted intercourse (coitus interruptus).
There is a lot of research on masturbation, both for men and women. If earlier many authors considered it extremely harmful and often giving irreparable complications, now this opinion has been largely refuted (L. Ya. Yakobzon, N. Rohleder, GS Vasilchenko). In some cases, masturbation is even considered advisable, since it provides the necessary discharge with prolonged sexual abstinence.
If a healthy woman who is temporarily not sexually active, occasionally masturbates, then this usually does not violate her general condition, and she does not go to the doctor. This sporadic (vicarious) masturbation is very common. So, according to the questionnaire distributed by Meirowski among students of higher female courses, 52% of those surveyed in the past engaged in masturbation at one time or another. In the same questionnaire conducted by G. Hamilton among women with higher education, this number reaches 74%.
According to S. Schnabl (1972), up to 90% of men and 42% of women resorted to masturbation. At the same time, men began to masturbate at a young age, and in women, its onset did not depend on age. According to the same author, 25% of women who began to masturbate to intimate relationships continued to do so later, in parallel with normal coitus, especially if they did not receive satisfaction from the latter. Women prone to masturbation had more sexual partners.
M. Margulis in his monograph "Diseases of the Century" quotes Professor Berger: " Every adult, without exception, has ever masturbated».
If a woman masturbates as a surrogate for sexual activity from 1 time a month to 2-3 times a week, we consider this a physiological phenomenon. If she masturbates several times a day, this is already "excessive masturbation", which requires medical attention.
In our work, we will only deal with cases of excessive masturbation. D. L. Burtyansky and V. V. Krishtal believe that masturbation is often the cause of primary frigidity. A number of authors (L. Ya. Yakobzon, Iv. Petrov, T. Bostanjiev and others) believe that if in some cases of masturbation a woman's frigidity subsequently develops, then for the most part masturbation itself (especially vicarious) is not so guilty of this, like the whole masturbatory psychological complex.
Both in the very old medical literature and in the newer one (V.M.Bekhterev, L.D. in adults. According to V. Rozhanovskaya, out of 150 women who turned to her in “ Family counseling”, 8 patients came with a request to relieve them of masturbation. Such requests are often addressed to the Moscow consultation " Family and marriage"(3. E. Anisimova).
IM Apter believes that masturbation in women is more difficult to yield to psychotherapy than in men. The masturbation of married women with sexually defective husbands is especially stubborn - here, in his opinion, psychotherapy is powerless. On the contrary, we had good results from hypnosuggestational therapy at all ages, which do not justify such pessimism of I. M. Apter.
Usually, excessive masturbation develops against the background of nymphomania, so some of our cases were analyzed in the corresponding section.
There are many ways to masturbate.... So, one of the patients of Dr. Moralia reported 14 ways of masturbation. In most cases, women for masturbation use a second finger with which they either rub the clitoris or insert it into the vagina. L. Ya. Yakobzon writes that therefore this finger is often called digitus impudians (indecent).
Sometimes the finger is replaced by some elongated object of varying thickness, depending on the circumstances. Virgins use pencils, hairpins, thermometers, which are inserted either through the opening in the hymen into the vagina or into the urethra. Women use sausages, wieners, bananas. One woman irritated her vulva with her heel.
In eastern countries, artificial penises have been used, which have recently penetrated into Western Europe, where in the relevant stores you can buy an artificial penis that completely imitates the real one.
Some girls and women reach orgasm by twitching the labia minora, which are significantly lengthened from frequent use of this procedure. Such women during a gynecological examination can often be recognized by this sign.
It should be noted that quite often women during masturbation do not touch their genitals with their hands at all, but simply squeeze their legs rhythmically. Some women reach orgasm while using the foot. sewing machine riding a bicycle or horseback riding. Some of our patients have reported that the most powerful masturbatory orgasms they receive from a warm shower directed to the clitoris.
Not only the ways of masturbation are diverse, but also its etiology. G. S. Vasilchenko (1974) distinguishes 7 clinical types of masturbation in men, based on their identification criteria:
- frustrating pseudo-masturbation,
- early pre-pubertal masturbation,
- masturbation of the period of youthful hypersexuality,
- substitutional (vicarious) masturbation,
- perseverative-obsessive masturbation,
- imitative and
- incidents of masturbation that do not lend themselves to classification.
Among women a number of almost similar clinical types of masturbation can also be distinguished:
- early childhood, begins at 5-8 years old, mostly under the influence of peers or girls of a slightly older age; it usually does not come to orgasm;
- pubertal masturbation develops with the appearance of secondary sexual characteristics: enlargement of the mammary glands, the appearance of vegetation on the pubis - and often coincides with the onset of menstruation (sometimes a little earlier or later);
- masturbation of a mature but not yet married girl of 16-20 years old (high school girls, students);
- substitutionary masturbation - widows, divorced women, women with a long break in sexual activity, etc.;
- climacteric masturbation.
V.M. Tarnovsky reports that he observed “ nymphomania"The girl is 3-4 years old. It seems to us that it was not nymphomania, but masturbation. We had to observe one case of such early masturbation, when it was too early to think about imitation and seduction.
In addition to 19 cases of excessive masturbation, we observed 5 more cases that were assigned to other groups. In total, thus, we observed 24 cases of excessive masturbation between the ages of 7 to 64 years. In 19 cases, the patients were completely cured by psychotherapy, in 4 cases there was a significant improvement, in 1 case there was some improvement, but clearly insufficient. Here are some examples.
G.V., 7.5 years old, brought in by a relative who lives with her in the same room. A girl from 2 years old is engaged in masturbation several times a day every day, irritating her clitoris with her finger. The woman said that once she took the girl to her bed for the night so as not to let her masturbate, but in the middle of the night the girl began to rub her genitals with her hand. A session of hypnotic suggestion was carried out with the order "do not touch the bottom with your hand."
After 2 weeks, the girl was brought in again. Masturbates much less. The second session of suggestion was carried out. A relative of the girl promised that if she noticed anything, she would bring her again, but she did not appear again. The effect was registered partial, although it may have been complete,
Schoolgirl, 16 years old. She began to masturbate from the age of 10 when she noticed a sharp increase in the mammary glands. The mammary glands are like an adult woman, there is no colostrum. Menses from 13 years of age with slight discomfort. The genitals are developed normally. The hymen is intact but missing a finger. Girl as prescribed by a doctor antenatal clinic took monobromous camphor, but no results. She studies in the 9th grade "so-so". She turned to us for help, because because of masturbation "there is no perseverance." Notes memory impairment, constant bad mood. During hypnotization, a very deep somnambulistic sleep was obtained. Made the suggestion of a good mood, a calm state, lack of excitement and desire to masturbate, improve memory, the desire to "become an excellent student."
The girl stopped masturbating after several sessions, noted a significant improvement in memory and mood. I received a total of 8 sessions with a sleep depth equal to somnambulism. Has not been masturbating for a long time and there is no desire. The memory has become excellent. School grades have improved.
S. K., 24 years old. At the age of 12, she saw rabbits during coitus, she developed a strong sexual desire, the patient began to masturbate, more and more every day. At the age of 18 she got married, but soon separated from her husband because of his betrayal. Is in a second marriage. Had one induced abortion 1.5 years ago. Sexual arousal is so strong that "there is a loss of consciousness for a few minutes." The patient lives with her husband an intense sexual life and, despite this, masturbates up to 10-15 times a day (rubs the clitoris).
After seven sessions of suggestion in a state of hypotaxia, S.K. became much calmer, stopped crying, lived a normal sex life, stopped masturbating, and was not inclined to masturbate. I am very pleased with the result of the treatment.
M. S, 38 years old, working. Sharp exhaustion. Apical tuberculous process in the lungs, pronounced systemic cardiovascular neurosis. From the nervous system: hand tremors, sharp, to convulsions, increased tendon reflexes, absence of pharyngeal and corneal reflexes, sharp red dermographism. Menstruating from the age of 13, after 1 month, for 3 days without pain, had 4 abortions.
An 8-year-old girl, under the influence of a friend, began to engage in masturbation, reaching very soon 4-5 times a day. Can't remember a single day without masturbation. Particularly strong attraction to masturbation is noted during the holidays. She got married at the age of 29. She thought that with the onset of sexual activity she would stop masturbating, but her hopes were not justified, and living with her husband a normal sex life, immediately after intercourse, even giving her complete satisfaction, each time right there, with her husband, she reached several orgasms with the help of masturbation. Can't give up this habit. Feels how "the nervous system loosens" and "thinness increases." She did not go to doctors because of shame. Recently, her health condition has deteriorated sharply, and the patient decided to recover at all costs. Received 8 sessions of suggestion in a hypnotic state. She stopped masturbating after the second session. Restful sleep. Not attracted to masturbation. The trembling of my hands stopped.
A few months after psychotherapy, he considers himself healthy, feels disgust for masturbation.
K.A., 65 years old, pianist. Climacteric, nymphomanic masturbation. Menstruated from I to 50 years. She was married three times, buried all three husbands.
During the illness of the last spouse, a severe climacteric syndrome developed with numerous complaints. On the gynecological side: severe itching of the external genital organs (without the phenomena of kraurosis), sharply increased libido, causing increased masturbation. After having an orgasm, the condition worsens even more. He considers his behavior to be immoral, experiences it hard, in connection with which there are frequent suicidal thoughts. She underwent a course of treatment in a hospital twice. Despite the prescription of drugs, he wakes up 10-15 times a night. She quit her job in her specialty, stopped reading.
The course of hypnosuggative therapy significantly relieved numerous climacteric complaints, relieved itching and decreased libido, the woman stopped masturbating.
It should be noted that, unlike male masturbation, in women, sometimes the impetus for masturbation is the itching of the external genitals, caused by one of three reasons:
- pinworms crawling from the anus into the vulva,
- diabetes - urine containing sugar causes vulvar itching (often genital itching is the first symptom of diabetes);
- trichomoniasis. Therefore, every woman with vulvar itching should be examined in these three directions.
It is impossible not to express an opinion about the excursion case given by G. S. Vasilchenko, when the patient recovered from nocturnal enuresis, starting, on the recommendation of one doctor, to masturbate.
In this case, the cure, undoubtedly, was the result of suggestion in a light-hearted patient: the doctor who gave advice enjoyed high authority with him. According to our experience and according to literature data, both nocturnal and daytime enuresis were cured by suggestive methods. We would not advise doctors to advise their patients to masturbate. In addition, we often observed, on the contrary, a weakness of the bladder in hard-core masturbators.
Excessive emission... Among doctors, there is an opinion that wet dreams - the accumulation of sperm with a complete or temporary absence of a normal sex life - occur only in men. Women, according to this opinion, do not have emissions. The first reports of female emissions date back to the last century. Krafft Ebing (1888) wrote that processes similar to emissions in women occur under the influence of erotic dreams. In the case of orgasm, peristaltic contractions of the muscle fibers of the uterine tubes occur with the release of mucus. If E. Kish believed that a kind of ejaculation from the Bartholin glands and partly from the glands of the cervix occurs in women with pollution orgasm, then other authors (L. Ya. Yakobzon, N. Rohleder) argue that Bartholin's glands cannot ejaculate; from them can only ooze a certain amount of mucus. According to N. Ellis, even passionate women rarely get an orgasm in a dream.
N. Rohleder and L. Ya. Yakobzon considered wet dreams with orgasm as the lot of young widows, wives of impotent husbands (ejuculatio praecox) and denied them in “ real virgins"Who have never experienced an orgasm, and if a girl sees erotic dreams with orgasm, they believed, then she is either a" half-virgin "or a masturbator. The works of A. Neup and K. Imelinski completely refute this opinion. A. Neup, who published data from a survey of 452 women and girls in 1924, found that more than half of the respondents had erotic dreams with orgasm. According to him, these phenomena were often observed in virgins. In some cases, he considered it necessary to apply "sedative psychotherapy" K. Imelinski in 1960 published the results of a questionnaire conducted among female students and pupils of the last grade high school... According to his data, 33.2% of all surveyed, that is, every third, had nocturnal emissions with erotic dreams.
We consider situational sporadic female emissions to be quite common and quite normal. Yves are of the same opinion. Petrov and G. Bostandjiev (1962).
P. Furbringer believed that the frequency of female emissions lies in the middle between the previous views about their rarity in healthy women and Neup's opinion about the normality and physiological nature of this phenomenon. A. Neup never observed emissions in menopause, while L. Ya. Yakobzon observed them in one 63-year-old woman, and P. Furbringer in a 56-year-old. One of our patients, suffering from climacteric nymphomania, had wet dreams at the age of 53.
From recent research devoted to erotic dreams in women, special attention should be paid to the observations of V. Rozhanovskaya (1972), who examined 400 women in this direction at the age from 20 to 50 years, living a relatively regular sex life for at least 1 year. Despite having sex, 202 out of 400 (50.5%) patients had such dreams, and 88 (43.5%) of them (or 22% of all respondents) had these dreams ending in orgasm, and in 14 out of 78 women and girls who never had an orgasm during sex, these nocturnal emissions were the only source of orgasmic experience.
Such a woman, having come to see a doctor, almost never informs about it, and only a directed anamnesis helps to reveal the frequency of this phenomenon. The excessive frequency of emissions, first described by V.I. Zdravomyslov in 1930, is already a disease that affects both the nervous and the somatic state of a woman.
T., 27 years old, came to us with complaints of a nervous state and persistent insomnia caused by frequent emissions. The patient is married, lives a normal sex life, but experiences an orgasm very rarely. There are wet dreams 5-6 times every night. Hypno-suggestive therapy was started. During the first session - deep hypnotic sleep. Suggestion of a normal sex life, restful sleep without any dreams, cessation of emissions.
Arriving a week later for the second session, the patient reported that during this time there was a wet emission only once. Feels more invigorated, sleep has improved. A week later, during the third session, she noted good health. For a week there were no wet dreams.
We observed 13 cases of excessive emissions, which negatively affected the general condition of patients, causing persistent insomnia, nervousness, irritability, tearfulness, headaches, memory impairment, constipation, loss of appetite and almost always sharp weight loss. In nine cases, a practical recovery was achieved, in three - a significant improvement, in one case the treatment had no effect. Sporadic or systematic, but infrequent (physiological) emissions occur, according to our observations, much more often.
We took into account only cases of excessive emissions that affect the health of patients. Here are some examples.
VM, 28 years old, employee. She married 19 years old, lived a rather intense and full-fledged sex life. She had two pregnancies: the first ended in normal childbirth, the second - an induced abortion. She divorced her husband 4 years ago. Lives with a nine-year-old son. There are no casual connections: he is ashamed of his growing son. A few months after the divorce, libido sharply increased and nocturnal emissions began, which became more frequent every month. Developed persistent insomnia, wet dreams several times almost every night. Pains appeared in the mammary glands, deep in the epigastric region (solar plexus) and in the back. With a gynecological examination - the norm. The patient lost weight, developed a general weakness, twitches of the eyes and hands appeared, memory weakened, and her working capacity decreased. Tendon reflexes are elevated to clonuses. Complete absence of pharyngeal and conjunctival reflexes. Persistent and sharp red dermographism. Bromcamphor had no effect. Hypno-suggestive therapy was started in a rather deep suggested sleep. The wet dreams stopped after several sessions, and my sleep returned to normal. Feels better with each session. Working capacity was fully restored. Pain in the back, epigastric region and mammary glands is completely eliminated. The result is lasting.
In this case, wet dreams developed in a woman with normal libido in connection with the termination of sexual activity. In some cases, wet dreams occur with completely indifferent coitus and, as it were, compensate for it. With the onset of full-fledged coitus, they are eliminated.
Typically, wet dreams in women, as well as in men, occur in a dream and are accompanied by voluptuous dreams. Women usually dream of coitus with familiar and unfamiliar men, often with close relatives (brother, father, son), also with animals. Collecting a directed anamnesis, we found that of the animals that women see in dreams during emission, the bear is the most common.
In this respect, the following observation is of interest.
X. X., 42 years old, menstruating since 13 years. For the first time she married for 16 years to a young engineer 23 years old. She lived an intense sex life, but was completely indifferent to her. X experienced her first orgasm. X. experienced sexual intercourse during pregnancy, at the age of 19. She gave birth to a girl. Later, for 15 years, there was not a single orgasm during coitus, although she had 6 pregnancies that ended in abortions. All my life I was looking for a person who could satisfy her, had four side connections for this, but without effect. At 34, she was widowed, but soon remarried. The husband's potency is weak, although coitus has become pleasant, but "does not have time" to have an orgasm (ejaculatio praecox). She said that she was familiar with orgasm from the very beginning of sexual activity (from the age of 16), but only in a dream. Regularly, once a month, on the eve of her period, she dreamed of coitus with a large animal (mainly with a bear, sometimes with an elephant). In the beginning, she always "escapes, runs away," but he catches up with her, and she "gives herself up with rapture." By sleep, he always unmistakably knows that the next day menstruation will begin.
In addition to mud therapy, she received 5 hypnosis sessions at the resort. Gymnastics of the muscles of the perineum was prescribed, a prescription for 10% anesthetic ointment was prescribed for my husband.
Later she said that everything helped her and her husband very well, she finally began to have an orgasm in reality.